Kindness sounds very abstract. What you perceive as kindness might not be the same to how others perceiving it.
You can be kind to others but how could you be sure that you are kind in an appropriate manner? Human being are very sensitive towards kindness. Sometimes your kindness can cause burden to others. Sometimes when you see people in troubles and you wanted to lend a helping hand, but you just didn't channel it to the need of that person. What he needed is just not what you are giving. Then, in this scenario you are adding on to the stress of the receipient on top of the problems that his is currently facing.
On the other hand, some people take kindness for granted. You will definitely have a bunch of people whom you name then friends who only come to you when they are in need of your kindness. And kindness is now traded for friendship.
In actual fact, kindness could be dealt with in a much simpler manner. My father used to tell me this... No one forces you to do it, if you are doing it, accept it whole heartedly... Don't complain! If it makes your life so difficult that you have so much to complain... Don't do it... Don't even promise...
Some one says... You can be kind, but don't be a kind fool... On the other side of the token... My friend shared with me that even if you are cheated by some one... But being kind is always within the scoop of your affordability... Why question?
I always feel that even if you have to trade your kindness for attention... Just do it... At the end of the day it is that relationship that you valued beyond that so called sacrifices...
Kindness is very subjective. I am not Jesus Christ that he is giving love unconditionally with out any expectation in return.
My classmates said to me, expectation is bad but we just can't help it. I am just not perfect... But I pray to be kinder...
Continue to stay kind because you never know some tiny little things that you do to others might lead to a great relieve to others.
